Why Christian Patriarchy Is Wrong!

What is wrong with Christian Patriarchy?

Why Christian Patriarchy Is Wrong!

Dr. Kluane Spake http://Kluane.com

Because of embedded prejudices, discussing patriarchy is often not a subject for honest and considerate dialogue.

FIRST, WE NEED TO STATE THE PROBLEM. The problem of gender and racial in-equality affects most of the Church, every day. (Maybe not in your place, but most places.)

Patriarch looms everywhere — it hides beneath the foundation of much of what is commonly accepted. We must study to discover God’s creational intention for all humanity — and stop repeating the confining rhetoric that pious men have said for Centuries.

A long time ago, when I first started pastoring a church, I asked the Lord, “Why? Why did you give me Gifts of the Spirit, and then these pastors say I am not supposed to use them?” “Why do You show up when I have a meeting?” “Why are people healed when I pray for them, if it isn’t okay with You?”

The further I went along in ministry, the worse the opposition became. Churches preached against me — often. Pastor’s wrote articles against me in the newspaper. The Pastor’s association wouldn’t let me join! All because I was a female. All because my husband was not in Church Leadership.

One time, the president of the Pastor’s association said, “Either she goes or I go!!” He didn’t believe in women at the pulpit. Well… let me tell you, I didn’t leave! So, guess what? He did! For years, I was regularly picketed by other churches and pastors!!

Of course, I was devastated. But… the opposition turned out to be great advertising – and people kept finding our church and loving it. Thankfully, God approves of women in governmental leadership.

They Are Really Nice Men

[Patriarchy] implies a social system of male power exercised not only through domination but also through benevolence and protection, even love.”

Many conservative Bible-believing Church leaders now honestly believe they are teaching Biblical truth when then teach about hierarchy, separatism, and patriarchy. Many of these guys are really nice people who aren’t trying to be “the big gun in charge” — the reality is, our society and our church automatically give leadership to men.


Most informed men are not purposefully trying to “dominate women” — it is just their long-standing mindset to assume certain behaviors — and it often happens unconsciously. Usually men don’t intentionally plot and plan to overstep and ignore women — it just happens — all the time!

From childhood, gender prejudice is deeply embedded into their daily interactions… and people hardly notice!

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Why Patriarchy Is Wrong!

For sure, today’s patriarchial church leaders are firmly closed minded about any possible future adjustment or change in their beliefs. They claim that the problem is that men need to position themselves more strongly as loving leaders.

They want to “KEEP” her safe.

Some even say they “LET” their wives do anything they want! Seriously? A grown woman needs permission?

Patriarchy is NOT SAFE! It is control and dominion over another person.

Patriarchy has serious negative effects on the Church community and women in general.

These “really nice” patriarchal men rationalize their actions to be an act of sacrifice and love. And, generally, they confirm that it is the woman’s rightful place in Christianity to be UNDER male leadership — so that women can partner together with them in fulfilling the Great Commission.

Christian patriarchy (sometimes called complementarianism) teaches the oddly contradictory idea that both men and women are created for the Glory of God, but when it comes to family life and government of the church, men hold unspoken authority.

It also often allows the subservience of other races and ethnicities.

Patriarchy is wrong because it takes the Lordship of Jesus Christ away from the woman.

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From Enmity to Equality Everyone needs to know the accurate and balanced truth about what has formed the world’s attitudes about gender. Answers every question Is there a factual basis for what you believe about the position of women in the church? Or is it a gut feeling about what others have told you? What about gender equality? Women in ministry? Women pastors? Women in Governmental roles?

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‘From Enmity to Equality’ contains what you need to know to give you absolute confidence in the inherent right and privilege of all humanity to live in equality.Kelley Varner

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IDENTITY Is Everything – My Preaching Notes!

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Oftentimes, movies can speak to us of Spiritual Truths. “The Bourne Identity” is a spy fiction novel where Jason Bourne must discover who he is and why lots of groups (including assassins AND the CIA) all want to kill him. We first meet Jason floating in the Mediterranean with a head wound that results in amnesia. The doctor who treats him discovers a message that has been surgically embedded in his hip. We discover that this message is the mysterious number of a Swiss bank account. Jason had to re-learn his identity.

 Statistics say that 87% of the church is dysfunctional. Most men and women are neutralized and unproductive. Religion has caught us in a TIME WARP. We tend to live in our yesterdays – in regret – wishing we could live our life over again.  This book shows you that too many Christians live in their past identity and then spend the rest of their lives looking for sympathy for their past. The truth is, you may have messed up in the past. But… Now what?

Today is a new day! It’s the day to discover who you really are. Identity and self-worth is crucial in order for us to activate the Kingdom. It restores the inherited part of who we are meant to be. Who we are born again to be. We are spiritual beings meant to co-exist in the temporal and spiritual realms at the same time on earth.

The single most important factor in behavior change is the picture you carry around in your brain of who you believe yourself to be. Identity theft is the Major Consequence Of The Fall.

We live in a time where secular identification is vital. We need Social Security numbers, passports, and driver’s licenses. It all seems normal to prove who we are. This struggle to know who we are is as old as the Garden temptation – we remember that the serpent’s temptation was, “Eat of the tree and you will be LIKE GOD…” But they already were! That first couple did not understand that they were already created to LIVE in the image and likeness of God. The problem is that still today, most believers do not understand the intention of God in Creation.

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Here we are – spiritual beings living on earth. Our heavenly identity often collides with our emotions and disappears depending on our circumstances. This book, “Identity Is Everything” will help you discover how to be supernaturally natural here on this earth and enjoy your life now. Actualizing your true IDENTITY releases the Power of God within and it will distinguish you from being an “average” person and change you into the overcoming achiever.

Jesus came out of obscurity and went directly to John the Baptist requesting to be Baptized (Matt 3:16-17). “A voice came from heaven, saying, “This is My beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased” (Matt. 3:16-17). This voice was God’s affirmation of the IDENTITY of His Son. Soon after that great incident, the tempter came to Jesus and questioned His Identity by saying, “IF YOU ARE THE SON OF GOD, tell these stones to become bread.”(Matt 4:1-3). Isn’t that just like the serpent’s first question, “HATH GOD SAID?”

Did God Really Say Who YOU Are? YES!!! OVER and over… You will love this book because, Identity IS Everything!

Who Are You? Do You Know For Sure?  1 Jn 3:2-3 But we know that when he appears, we shall be LIKE HIM, FOR WE SHALL SEE HIM AS HE IS.

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